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by Jill Crosby

Want to take it a bit slower with meeting in person still? That's understandable, given all of the information flying around. 

Wouldn’t it be great to have your special someone for mutual support? Someone with whom to problem solve,  laugh, play and be creative?

All of this craziness has been challenging for everyone, and if you've been single the whole time, it can get down right lonely! 

It’s actually the perfect time to meet someone special. Really? Yes, really.

Think about it. You can use an online dating app or website like to meet several candidates.  When you would normally be ready to meet for an in-person date, PIVOT! Yes, you flow like a river and do something creative to get to know each other instead of meeting for drinks after work.

Like what?

Video Date!

Imagine sitting in front of your computer or phone, sharing your hopes, fears, dreams, loves, and just spending time together. You can get to know someone really well via video chatting, and the relationship can be a source of great support and love when you could be feeling quite isolated. Without having the physical connection, you can focus more on a deep personal connection because the physical part isn’t there to distract so much. Yes, there can still be intimacy, even sexual intimacy, however, without being able to physically touch each other, video dating is conducive to sharing and learning about each other, rather than hooking up for a sexual encounter.  And if you do get sexually intimate, it’s the safest sex possible!

For starters, I recommend using Spiritual Singles on-site VIDEO DATING feature, as you can video date without sharing your contact info. It's always smart to get to know someone in a secure setting (or public setting) before sharing any personal contact info like your phone number.  If you move off-site and use a free video chatting platform like WhatsApp, Signal, Zoom, Skype, Facetime or another video conferencing app to get to know your date/s,. be sure to use private browsing when using these apps to ensure the communication is private. Signal and WhatsApp are APPS that encrypt what you send, meaning it is secure and private. You will want to learn more about how to set up your account to be as private as possible. This article can assist you in learning more about encryption. If you have an interest in sexting this site has some important tips regarding security.

Video dating can feel a bit unnatural at first, so I recommend letting any uncomfortableness with the technology melt away, so you can focus on the connection with the person. Don’t worry so much about how you look and sound, just be yourself and thoroughly in-joy the person you are dating. Avoid looking at yourself on the screen and focus on them. If you were on a date in person, you wouldn't have a mirror in front of your face the whole time, so pretend the camera is not there!

Below are some fun ideas of what to do on a video date.

Video Dating Ideas:

  • Share a glass wine (or sparkling water) and ask each other questions

  • Play online games like scrabble, chess or strip poker

  • Meditate together

  • Cook a meal at the same time

  • Watch a movie together (*Use to synchronize playback and use a group chat)

  • Have a dance party for two or share songs with each other

  • Send pictures to each other

  • Be sexually intimate with each other online-get creative (take your time working up to this one!)

Once you feel comfortable and really like each other, meet in person! How exciting will that be? You’ve been talking and sharing with someone via video chatting, and then you get to meet in person! What a fun adventure. This may mean traveling across the city, or across the world… either way, you will have already created a wonderful foundation to launch your in-person relationship. *If you can't travel to meet each other due to travel restrictions, keep video dating until you can! 

On, many of our success stories start off being long-distance, so why not be open-minded about this. Your soul mate may not live around the corner. It’s free to join, create your profile and even read and reply to messages sent from subscribing members. Check it out! You have everything to gain.

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Jill Crosby is the owner/founder of the Conscious Dating Network, the largest network of exclusively conscious/spiritual/green dating sites on the Internet, featuring her flagship site, launched in 2000 and inherited in 2014. There are several dating sites that all share the same, large database of members in the spiritual/green niche. All members automatically have access to all members from all sites, by joining one site.

During the first 9-years of growing her online dating site business, Jill worked a “day job” as Director and Sales Trainer for the original photo/video bricks and mortar dating company in the US. During that time she interviewed over 6000 singles in 7 different states.

Jill is an inspirational public speaker and is known for her candor, vulnerability, down to earth honesty and humor as she helps singles thrive in the world of online dating and ultimately meet their life partners. She is also a hypnotherapist, metaphysician and facilitator of Wild Dolphin and Whale Swim Retreats and SCUBA Trips for Singles. Her events site, promotes conscious/spiritual events worldwide.

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